This lack of power is illustrated by the typical heterosexual response to a homosexual coming out: "Are you sure? It is hard to imagine this scenario with someone claiming a more benign label such as "I am a vegetarian. Are you sure it's not just a phase? Maybe you just haven't eaten very good hamburgers yet.
If this need is met, heterosexuals can maintain a distance from the "outside," and keep the so-called secret of homosexuality unacknowledged. Of course, homosexuality is hardly a secret, as Foucault argues extensively — the concept of homosexuality is a product of a complex social system; at the same time that homosexuality was constructed, it was understood as a secret.
When homosexuals refrain from communicating their sexuality, they present themselves as something that does not need to be acknowledged. The closet, then, reinforces the dominant discourse in another way — by allowing silence. For "silence itself — the things one declines to say, or is forbidden to name, the discretion that is required between different speakers — is less the absolute limit of discourse There is not one but many silences, and they are an integral part of the strategies that underlie and permeate discourses" Foucault The need for heterosexuals to remain silent on the topic of homosexuality is yet another reinforcer of their dominant status, and the space of the closet allows this silence to exist unquestioned.
Coming out disrupts this aspect of discourse-formation — yet this does not necessarily mean that claiming a homosexual identity is liberating. However, sexual identity cannot reveal any deep, hidden, personal truths since it originates from a social process, not from one's own person. Furthermore, the claiming of a socially constructed identity, even if meant to be a rebellious act, is exactly what is needed in order to solidify the creation of that identity.
The act of repeating back the identity with pride — "I am gay, and I'm proud about it! One cannot have power without having resistance, and this resistance is vital to the power relays which produce identity. However, it is not necessarily the case that identities must be performed exactly as dictated.
On the contrary, precisely because such terms have been produced and constrained within such regimes, they ought to be repeated in directions that reverse and displace their originating aims" Butler Upon coming out of closet, or being pushed out by suspension from parents and friends at the age of eighteen or nineteen I quickly assumed the bi-sexual title because it meant at least there was hope for me in the future.
This proved to be worse for my self-esteem, and may have caused the most damage because even though I was free to come out, I was still afraid somewhat of taking the big leap and being totally ostracized by my friends and people I know Instead, this felt like a moment of impulse where I needed to let this secret out.
Even though I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area and I knew my parents would likely accept this, I remained terrified of their reaction and the reactions of everyone around me. The main reason I had the courage to come out was because I knew I would get a fresh start two months later when I started college 2, miles away from everyone I knew Troye Sivan is an 18 year old Australian actor and YouTube.
Since Troye is in the public eye, he took a risk coming out of the closet so publicly Kids at school don't understand that just a few years ago, coming out was horrible. But when that same quarterback decides to go for the guy playing Danny Zucko in the school musical? People start to get nosey. It should come as no surprise, then, that at 17, my choice to withhold my sexual preference until directly asked was seen as treasonous and deceitful.
How dare I not proclaim to the world that I was, indeed, a homosexual! Not that it mattered, but as far as I was concerned, everyone already knew my leanings. Slight unease helped me settle into that theory. And my desire to remain private and anonymous—despite a deceivingly loud personality—married me to it. I was gay…and keeping it to myself.
And if they had to pin me with a label, it would be asexual. That was the immature way teenagers in called each other prude high schoolers back then were nowhere near as woke about the sexuality spectrum as they are today.
I was too busy, and the pickings were too slim to be distracted.
I sat down on the cold ceramic floor and focused on the feeling of water drumming against the slope of my back. Such disclosure is an ongoing, lifelong process rather than a one-time event. Precisely the opposite. The closet is a space of secrecy. I know this because I discovered how to have gay sex from an insult. Since Troye is in the public eye, he took a risk coming out of the closet so publicly
I know this because I discovered how to have gay sex from an insult. Neither of us did. But if they never asked, I never told, and most people shied away, keeping me semi-closeted. Even if it is impossible to be in control of the production of truth, inside or outside of the closet, it is important to become involved in the discourse that establishes knowledge, and this is only possible outside of the closet.
Coming out of the closet is a figure of speech for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people's to tell others about their homosexuality or bisexuality where previously this had been kept secret. No one replied. The need for heterosexuals to remain silent on the topic of homosexuality is yet another reinforcer of their dominant status, and the space of the closet allows this silence to exist unquestioned. Power, rather, is exerted in the way we produce discourse — the way we form knowledge which then creates what we regard as "truth.
For example, if lesbians are looked down on because they are supposedly "unnaturally" masculine, how does this notion change if a woman, denying the negative connotation, lauds this very quality in her female lover? It's an honor for me to let someone in.
I also realized how sad it is that I accepted, even for a moment, that I had been neglected by a person who has loved me for a lifetime, the person who had given me life.
Educating people about my immediate appearance is one thing, but having to educate people on something they cannot see is another. We lay in bed all night staring at the ceiling, our clothes still on, waiting for one of us to get things started.